The Day I gave up being Petty……………

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I once asked a very successful woman that I met at one of the Office parties, to share her secret with me. She smiled so beautifully and said to me in all confidence:

‘I started succeeding when I started leaving small fights which did not give meaning to my life for small fighters. These fights did not bother me at all.

I stopped arguing with those who gossiped about me. These people did not matter to me one bit. I kept away from gossip mongers who do nothing but gossip about people.

I stopped fighting for attention from the people I associated with. It did not bother me whether anyone liked me or not. I was totally detached from flattery.

I stopped fighting with my in-laws, my boss, my colleagues. There was not much to talk about. I wanted my peace of mind.

I stopped fighting to meet people’s expectation of me. It was not required. I was doing whatever I wanted for my own satisfaction.

I stopped fighting to please everyone.  It is a hopeless cause and in return I suffered, as it is of no use pleasing others as people are never satisfied.  I simply wanted calmness for myself. I left such fights for those who have nothing else to fight about.

And I finally started fighting for:

My vision, my dreams, my ideas and my destiny. The day I gave up on small fights and unnecessary quarrels is the day I started becoming successful and so much more content in my life. Some fights are not worth your time or energy, choose what you fight for wisely to live happily and cheerfully.

Confident walking is more successful than confused running. Follow no one but learn from everyone. Brave concept is “Do or Die”. Practical concept is “Do before you Die” and Winner’s concept is “Don’t Die until you Do it.” Live your life and forget your age.

79 thoughts on “The Day I gave up being Petty……………

  1. That was so beautiful and something that we miss despite all. Infact I was just thinking about someone else and what their opinion about me might be, when I read this post. Thank you for this truly. 🙂🙂


  2. I stopped fighting to please everyone. It is a hopeless cause and in return I suffered, as it is of no use pleasing others as people are never satisfied. These are the words that resonate with me the most, Kamal. This is what I have the most trouble with in my life, I am always trying to please people and it can wear you out. This is good advice.

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    1. Same here Robbie and then get into trouble and it pains us only and no one else. I think this is the nature of every woman who has to go through so much in life. Hope one day our lives will be different and we drop all this nonsense and live a life of peace and happiness. Thanks for your valuable words. Love and light to you. Take care of yourself 💕💕💕💕💕


  3. Kamal you have written another fantastic piece.

    Fighting is exhausting. I have stopped fighting on many a point. I am refining some.

    But this post is so valuable wisdom. So useful and profound. And important and essential to live in peace.


    1. Thank you so much for your valuable feedback dear Bella and I agree totally with you. Fighting has never done anyone good in life but it is surely exhausting. Nice to let go and have a wonderful life of peace and happiness. Happy day to you 🙏🙏🙏🙏👍👍👍👍


  4. Wow.. So important concept of life Kamal.. Live and let live.. Don’t care of What they gossip Or say.. You have only one life.. Live it with your own choices Not theirs as long as you do Not bother any one.. It is our decision to enjoy life and do What is better.. Age is What we feel inside..
    Great post Kamal.. Keep writing ❤️🌹🌷🌻🌹😊


    1. Yes Sohair I completely agree with your valuable feedback. Why worry about people who gossip instead leave everything and enjoy your one life that again does not come back. Life is totally uncertain let us all live happily and blissfully with each and everyone. Thank you so much dear. Love and light to you.

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