On a Sunday afternoon a family gathered over the lunch table to have their favourite biryani (an Indian rice dish). Wife was serving the food to both her son and her husband. After the food was served, husband tasted the biryani along with Raita (a dish made of curd which is good to eat with Biryani) and started yelling at his wife for adding more salt to the Raita.
She opened the refrigerator and added some curd to it, and she served it again after tasting it to her husband and son. The curd then tasted very nice. Her husband said in a disgusting tone, “You should have done it properly and checked it before serving it to us, because of the extra salt, you have spoilt my mood of eating biryani.” He then got up in a temper and went away to his room least bothered how she was feeling from all this.
After some time, the son and the father completed their lunch and the wife served herself and completed her lunch alone. While she was washing the vessels, the son came to meet her and he saw his mother with bitter tears in her eyes. When he inquired why she was crying, she just wiped her tears and said “nothing” and he quietly went away.
After some years, son was married and his mother lived along with him since his father was no more. On one Sunday afternoon, he was helping his wife in placing the dishes on the table and his daughter started serving biryani to her grandmother, and she also served her some Raita too. Then they all sat to eat. While he started eating the biryani with Raita, he felt it was salty, he immediately got up from his chair and picked up the curd bowl from the refrigerator and added some curd to the Raita and told his wife, “Biryani is yummy and awesome.”
His wife who was observing him asked why he added some extra curd to raita, he looked at his mother and said, “my mother knows the pain of extra salt in raita”. His wife was totally confused and said, “I did not understand what you said right now.” He then smiled and said very nicely, “Raita was salty, so I added some extra curd so that you will not feel it salty.” She said, “I am sorry about it.”
He then said, “If my father could have added extra curd to the Raita, my mother would have not had tears in her eyes for the rest of her life.” He further said, “If he could have taken extra care and attention towards my mother, she would have not had the additional burden that she carried in her heart. If he could have gone an extra mile in loving our family, we would have gone an extra mile in being peaceful and happy as a loving family.”
Every one of us make mistakes in one way or another in our life, but the greatest mistake is fighting and yelling over the mistakes that was already made. Ask yourself, “Did you reach over the extra salt in the raita or did you respond by adding extra curd to it and solving the problem amicably.”
Life becomes sweeter when we understand the power of adding some empathy, care, kindness and forgiveness first with the ones that matter most and are dearest to us. An extra second of thinking can change our life forever.