President Xi Jing Peng of China has a beautiful story to share: Leave the choice to others:
As a small child, I was very selfish, always grabbing the best for myself. Slowly, everyone left me and I had no friends. I did not think it was my fault and I would criticize others.
But one day my father gave me 3 sentences to help me in life:
One day, my father cooked 2 bowls of noodles and put them on the table. One had an egg on top while the other bowl had none on top. Then he asked me to choose a bowl of noodles. Because eggs were hard to come by those days. I choose the bowl with the eggs. I was secretly congratulating myself on my wise choice and decided to wallop the eggs but to my surprise my father’s bowl of noodles had two eggs at the bottom of his bowl beneath the noodles. With much regret, I scolded myself for being too hasty in my decision.
My father smiled and taught me to remember that what your eyes see may not be true. He added that if you make a habit of taking advantage of people, you will end up losing.
The next day, my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles; one bowl with an egg on top and the other bowl with no egg on top. Again, he asked to choose the bowl I wanted. This time I felt smarter so I chose the bowl without an egg on top. But to my surprise, there was not even a single egg at the bottom of the bowl. Again, my father smiled and said to me, my child, you must not always rely on experiences because sometimes, life can cheat you or play tricks on you. Never be too annoyed or sad, with situations, just treat every experience as learning a lesson that cannot be imbibed from any textbooks.
The third day my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles, one bowl with an egg on top and the other with no egg on top. He asked me to choose the bowl I wanted. But this time, I told my father, “dad, you choose first, you are the head of the family and you contribute the most to the family.” My father was happy to choose for me. He chose the bowl with one egg on top, but as I ate my bowl of noodles, to my surprise, there were two eggs at the bottom of the bowl.
My father smiled at me with love in his eyes, he said, “My child, you must remember that when you leave the Choice to God or your Parents, they will always choose the BEST for you. When you think for the good of Others, good things will always naturally happen to you. Learn to be always kind and loving to one and all. You too will receive it tenfold. REAL HAPPINESS LIES IN MAKING OTHERS HAPPY.